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Quarter life-crisis

16 Oct

Got this in my mailbox and how true!
Enjoy!

They call it the “Quarter-life Crisis.” It is when you stop going along
with
the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about
yourself
that you didn’t know and may not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or
two,
but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those
friends
that you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest
people you
have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the
most
important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that
too
and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they
are as
confused as you.

You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you
would be
doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going
to
have to start at the bottom and are scared.

You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the
same
people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they
weren’t so
great after all. You are beginning to understand yourself and what you
want
and do not want.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and
find
yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize
that you
have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of
what is
acceptable and what is not.

You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest
force
of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change
is the
enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon
realize
that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing
to
do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do
such
damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can’t meet anyone
decent
enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone
else
too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a
bad
person.

One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting
wasted
and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk
with
your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a
decision.

You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for
yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you’d
just
like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.
We are
in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can
to
figure this whole thing out.

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7 Comments

Posted by on October 16, 2006 in Uncategorized

 

7 responses to “Quarter life-crisis

  1. Princess

    October 16, 2006 at 22:07

    Ditto!!!! Nice post!!

     
  2. modoathii

    October 17, 2006 at 03:16

    this is fantastic. grabbed it by the balls…ouch! the fear of the unknown keeps us where we are. unsatisfied but we lie to ourselves we are happy. sad consolations.

    kool. got me thinking. got me sinking deeper into that quarter-life crisis.

     
  3. Komi

    October 17, 2006 at 09:29

    Hmmm. So that is what am suffering from? Interesting yet so true, especially the loneliness, fear and confusion. Those three actually sum it up. And to think there’s mid-life crisis coming…

     
  4. Movie Buff

    October 19, 2006 at 13:14

    I think we know the same people.

    I also got this same forward…
    he he

     
  5. spicebear

    October 19, 2006 at 15:27

    this is so my life right now it’s unfunny. i got that foward a couple of years back, then got it again a couple of weeks ago.

     
  6. SisBigBones

    October 20, 2006 at 03:27

    hahaha…I’m definitely going through this stage. It sucks to grow up!

     
  7. SaHaRa

    January 16, 2007 at 07:08

    Interesting post and quite true in most cases. But I have been there. I think.

    I now love absolutely everything about myself – whether I know much about myself or not – lol. Infact a friend commented the other day that I love myself just too much – I should give others a chance too. Lol.

    Insecurity … nah! I know exactly where I will be in the next ten years. Lol.

    As for love, getting broken heart etc … I don’t have regrets in life. I call them life experiences. I am what I am today because of everything that has happened in my life.

    Having said this, I made a lot of changes to my life last year. Including work and friends – I took one long look at my life and decided to cut off all negetivity in my life – whatever was dragging me down I kicked it to the kerb. Then I went back to the drawing board, made a proposal and presented it to God.

    I have resigned now and I’m with less but very good friends. I promise you I have never been happier!

     

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